Are you having concerns that your partner is cheating on you? There are tell-tale signs to look for. If your partner exhibits these signs, there's a high likelihood that they are cheating on you.
1. Does your partner keep their phone(s) hidden or protect their phone jealously or password it so you can't access it? Do they fidget or 'hover around you' if you asked to use their phone for a sec? Your partner might be trying to keep something from you if they keep their phone from your view, put it on silence or even have it switched off when at home; maybe there are texts, numbers, voicemails, or other incriminating stuff they don’t want you to see. In some cases, they could even have another phone you know nothing about.
2. Do they consistently work late hours? Are these extra hours reflected in their salary. Traditionally, working later than usual and on a regular basis is one of the most common signs that cheating "could" be taking place. Normally, working extra hours would mean an increase in take home pay. Ask yourself, is there an increase in their salary as a result of the extra hours of work they consistently put in at work? Do they ever use the work phone when calling to let you know they will be late?
3. Does your partner shower you with "out-of-the-blues" gifts or do they seem more caring and affectionate than usual? Unexpected gifts are more like "guilt offerings". The guilt makes them to subconciously feel the need to buy you very expensive gifts because it helps them cushion the effects of the guilt the feel for cheating on you; it is something akin to "when you offend the 'gods', 'something' (a sacrifice) is required from you to appease them." Also, a sudden change from a bad habit to a good one might be proof that something isn't quite right. But it's worthy of note that they could actually be trying to change for the better; the length of time this positive change in their habit lasts would determine whether the change was to appease you or it was actually for them to become a better partner.
4. Has your partner suddenly become argumentative or touchy? Are you being regularly blamed for anything that goes wrong, snapped at for no obvious reason or dragged into an argument? This could either be guilt making your partner blame you for making them have an affair or a very dangerous sign that they are beginning to fall out of love with you because of the other person in their life.
5. Do they want to look good all of a sudden and go extra length to achieve it? If your partner becomes more concerned with their personal appearance, it is a sign they could be cheating. A cheating partner will often desire to look and smell good for the person they are cheating with. The sudden desire to start working out, buy new clothes and underwears, or wear expensive perfumes to places you aren't asked to come along to, should be questioned.
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6. Is your partner spending too much money but not for the home? Do they constantly complain of being impecunious? Then keep your eyes peeled for questionable charges in your financial records. Cheating habits take money to sustain. And where you don't have a joint bank account or have access to his financial records, you should question the lack of money seeing it wasn't spent for the home.
But before you begin leveling accusations, bear in mind that the presence of these signs is not 100% proof that your partner is cheating. They are just indicators that your partner 'could' be cheating. So do not jump to conclusions; instead, take everything into consideration and ask your partner questions where necessary. If you have feelings they are cheating, first do some careful thinking and also pray for God's direction before you accuse your partner of having an affair. Assume the best of your partner until you have viable evidence that suggests you do the contrary. Otherwise, don’t create a problem where none exists.
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