Being Sexy Isn't About Big Backside — Mercy Johnson

Background

I am Mercy Johnson, an actress. I was born 29 years ago and I am the fourth child in a family of seven. My father is an ex-military officer and I left my mother at the age of two to live with him. Due to the nature of his job, he was constantly transferred from one station to another. I am proud of him because he taught me all I needed to know from childhood to adulthood.

Movie industry

I have grown with time and there have been good and bad times. There have been rumours and scandals. Sometimes, when I cry in movies, it wasn’t the script that made me cry. Rather, I reflect on my humble beginning and the height I’ve attained now. This makes me cry.

Journey into acting

After my secondary school education, I approached a friend for assistance to feature in a movie. He took me to the National Theatre, Lagos, but a role did not come until a year later. My first lead role was in a film titled, ‘The Maid.’ It was quite challenging to interprete because it was my first movie. When I saw the veterans on set, I fidgeted.

A star actress

Life is in phases and I cannot say I have reached the peak of my profession. I have not even won an Oscar yet! There is always a higher mountain to climb, a new vision to fulfill and I am at that point. I want to achieve new and greater dreams.

Fulfillment

The greatest fulfillment is the ability to influence people positively through my acting.

Challenges

Life is not a bed of roses; it comes with challenges which make me stronger and who I am.

Nollywood: Then and now

We have achieved feats which the old Nollywood did not achieve. It is all about progression and I am sure that in the future, Nollywood will achieve a greater feat than it is doing currently.

Relationship

My husband is loving and he is an understanding man. I am so happy to be married to him. I acted a movie, ‘Baby Oku in America’ when I was heavily pregnant and he didn’t feel bad about it. He understands that I am an actor and sometimes, we need real life situations, like the pregnancy, to interpret a role. Not many men would allow their wife do that.

Scandals

They are all lies. I just think the media needs to do their verification well before they put any story out. Whenever I read all manner of lies about me in the media, I wonder where all of these came from and regret being an actor. But in all, I move on and take it as one of the hazards of the job. I am fulfilled as an actor.

Mercy Johnson Foundation

I floated the foundation because of my love for the less privileged. One of my greatest joys is to see other people happy. I want to make lasting impact in my society. The objective is to identify the needs of the less privilege, evaluate them and help in our own little way. I strongly believe that as movie stars, we should live beyond the euphoria of stardom.

A sexy woman

It is inbuilt. It’s just how you feel about yourself. For me, being sexy is confidence. It mustn’t be about the hairstyle or the accessories or the big buttocks. It’s about you, liking yourself just the way you are.

Motherhood

My husband is a wonderful man. He makes my job easier and helps carry our daughter, Purity. He feeds her and she misses him whenever he is not around. As a family, we understand one another and we make whatever adjustments we have to make in order to have a good home.

Success

The challenges I faced have yielded results and I am reaping the fruits of all my efforts. I have grown from nobody in the industry to becoming a top actress from Africa. To God be all the glory.

To be an actress

Talent is never enough you must constantly brush up your talent but training can come in different form. You only need to ensure that in whatever form, you are not just relying on your inborn talent.

 

Projects

There are many but I’m not permitted to disclose them yet. They will start unfolding soon.

Fear

My worst fear will be to leave this earth without making a huge impact.

Fashion

I don’t wear what is in vogue or what everybody is wearing, I just wear what suits me and I’m lucky to have a physique that encourages everything I wear. My husband is a huge critic, so when he pays compliments to my dressing, I feel so good. He doesn’t believe that exposing anything makes you look better. He feels when you cover up, you look real nice.

To upcoming actors

Be yourself and let your talent speak for you. Don’t come into the industry because you want to be famous, but because you love the art of acting. Then try to appreciate those who were there before you.

 

Culled from Sunday PUNCH

Effective Way to Deal with Emotional Unfaithfulness

An emotional affair can be defined as "A relationship between a person and someone other than (their) spouse (or lover) that has an impact on the level of intimacy, emotional distance and overall dynamic balance in the marriage. The role of an affair is to create emotional distance in the marriage." 

In this view, neither sexual intercourse nor physical affection is necessary to impact the committed relationship(s) of those involved in the affair. It is theorized that an emotional affair can injure a committed relationship more than a one night stand or other casual sexual encounters due to the deception involved, and the fact that the significant other having the affair is allowing themselves to become emotionally attached to a person outside the relationship, often infatuated or even outright obsessed, dedicating physical and emotional energy into said person instead of the into the person they are in a committed relationship with. The emotional weight of an emotional affair is but one of many reasons that marriage experts, and relationship experts, as well as those who have been on one - or both - sides of an emotional affair, consider it a form of cheating.

 

One of the most hurtful things a spouse can discover is that their spouse is being emotionally unfaithful.

 

It is deeply demoralizing to learn that your spouse is emotionally attached to someone else. And although he or she might not have been physically unfaithful, emotional infidelity hurts.

 

Some spouses who have been victims of adultery have said that sexual infidelity is tolerable to some extent, but that emotional infidelity is much more painful.

 
Here are some possible signs that your spouse might be wandering into emotional infidelity:

• They show lack of interest in family events
• Working longer hours
• Excessive use of Internet and email leaving no history
• Carry their phone everywhere and talk in a low tone
• Abruptly ending a call or close or minimize an open computer page when you walk in on them
• They begin taking better care of themselves
• Change their wardrobe
• They always seem to be deep in thought, forgetful and absent minded
• Increased spending without an explanation
• Looking bored with life in general
• Taking up new hobbies that do not involve you
• When caught lying, they are defensive and angry
• Start to treat you extremely nicely (for no “good” reason)

What are some ways to deal with emotional infidelity?
 

Well, let’s first talk about some ways that aren’t effective when dealing with emotional infidelity; to begin with, emotional outbursts, or setting out to “win back” the emotionally unfaithful partner won't help.  Other things that won’t help you in dealing with emotional infidelity are, begging, flattering, making promises, sending flowers or gifts, and trying to be more social and outgoing. Surprisingly, these tend to fuel emotional infidelity even more because they usually push the emotionally unfaithfuly partner away.

 

When it comes to emotional infidelity, cheating partners react in various ways when caught. So here are a couple of reactions that you can expect:

 

The initial reaction might be panic and confusion because they didn’t expect to be caught. Later on they might either feel embarrassed or ashamed of their actions, or act indignant and defensive.  They might also shift blame and say “I did this because of you” or “to get back at you.”  With time, it’s likely that they will feel remorseful when it becomes obvious to them how much pain they’ve caused you.

 
So what is an effective way to deal with emotional infidelity?
 

Backing off:  If you really want to continue the relationship and give the emotionally unfaithful partner a chance, then simply backing off is the tactic that will get you out of this predicament.  It will give you a better chance of saving your relationship because it allows time for your partner to clear their head while giving an opportunity for the healing process to begin.

However, backing off doesn’t mean giving up and having nothing to do with your spouse. Maintain quality interaction, and confront your partner with the reality of their decisions – share the potential consequences that their emotional infidelity might have on your relationship. Don’t just be an idle spectator. But realize that the only person in the relationship you really have “control” over is yourself – and not them.

So use this time to develop better self knowledge, self confidence and to strengthen the foundation of your life so you are better able to endure the storms of emotional infidelity and other relationship challenges. And remember, although it might sound counter-intuitive, backing off will enhance your chances of not only surviving emotional infidelity but of also saving your relationship.

Try to remain calm.  Although being the “victim” of emotional infidelity hurts like crazy, try to remain as calm as possible. And although you will probably be curious about the “other” person they are involved with, refrain from asking questions.  Though it is not easy, it is extremely important for you to practice patience and self control.

 

Don't be needy.  Instead of being needy, practice being confident in yourself. Don’t demand a loyalty pledge or anything of the sort. Just do all you can to avoid being a pain in the neck no matter how much they "deserve" it!  Shift your mindset and choose to look at emotional infidelity as a golden opportunity for you to grow and mature; you never know, you might even impress your spouse in the process.

 

Don't nag about it.  Learning how to say the right thing and do the right thing, at the right place and at the right time, will help you deal with emotional infidelity.  Remember, your partner needs breathing room and quiet moments to think back and reflect on their behavior.  This has a sobering effect. It gives them the opportunity to realize that the love “euphoria” that they’re feeling is only temporary.

 

Don't obsess about it.  Believe it or not, the emotional euphoria that your partner might be experiencing will soon fade. So control yourself and let it complete its course.  It will also give them a chance to truly decide whether this is what he or she really wants (after the “emotional rush” wears off, most people decide that it isn’t what they want after all).  It will finally dawn upon the emotionally unfaithful spouse that this current way of life is not sustainable. What usually happens is that he or she begins experiencing feelings of emptiness, and will have a renewed desire to live in the “real” world.

 
This is the pathway through emotional infidelity.

You Never Know Who's Watching...!

Out for dinner: The mom, who asked not to be named, had taken her three kids - two of whom have special needs - to the pizza chain in Durham, North Carolina, pictured, last Friday.

'You and your children have amazing futures': Kindhearted stranger pays for family's dinner after watching single mom 'lovingly'  parent kids.

• The mom had taken her kids - two of whom have special needs - to the pizza chain in Durham, North Carolina, last Friday
• A young man, sitting nearby, paid the family's bill and left them with a Pizza Hut gift card
• In a three-page note, he wrote: 'I have watched you teach your children about the importance of respect, education, proper manners, communication, self control, and kindness all while being very patient...'
• The mom, who didn't want to be identified because she's a domestic violence victim, was so moved by the gesture she went to the press to thank the kindhearted 'Jake'
• 'Here I've had the worst few years of my life and I never get recognition like this... I want him and his family to know that he's awesome,' she said

A tireless single mom got the shock of a lifetime last week when a kindhearted stranger paid for her family's dinner at Pizza Hut and left a three-page note applauding her 'loving' parenting.

The mom, who asked not to be named, had taken her three kids - two of whom have special needs - to the pizza chain in Durham, North Carolina, last Friday when she saw a young man sitting alone in a nearby booth and went up to him to apologize for the noise her kids would no doubt make.

He told her not to worry, and that he had three little ones of his own so could relate.

 

According to ABC11, the mom went back to her table, thinking nothing more of it as she worked hard to engage her four-year-old daughter whom she recently learned has bullying tendencies, and her six-year-old son who has Asperger's and ADHD, keeping them on their best behavior through-out the meal.

 

After the man finished up his pizza and left, a waitress came over to the family and told her the young man had paid the family's bill and left them with a Pizza Hut gift card.

The waitress also said he'd asked for some paper and a pen soon after the family sat down and then handed the mom the three-page letter he'd written.

 

With tears streaming down her face, the mother and the waitress, who was at this point also sobbing, read the note together: 'I do not know your back story, but I have had the privilege of watching you parent your children for the past 30 minutes,' the note read.

'I have to say thank you for parenting your children in such a loving manner.

'I have watched you teach your children about the importance of respect, education, proper manners, communication, self control, and kindness all while being very patient. I will never cross your path again but am positive that you and your children have amazing futures.

'Keep up the good work and when it starts to get tough do not forget that others may be watching and will need the encouragement of seeing a good family being raised. God bless! -- Jake'

So moved by the gesture, the mom wrote to ABC11 to share the heart-warming story. She explained that the past few years had been very trying for her family, with a messy divorce, constantly moving house and her college student had to take a year off from school.

She said she was also the victim of domestic violence, which is why she didn't want to be identified.

'You just don't know what people go through,' she told ABC11. 'Here I've had the worst few years of my life and I never get recognition like this, I just do what I can to get by.

'I want him and his family to know that he's awesome. You never know who's watching you.'

Culled from:  www.dailymail.co.uk

Depressed Chinese bachelor cuts his penis off because it's surplus to requirements then CYCLES to hospital for treatment (but forgets to take severed organ with him).

Agony: Yang Hu, pictured in hospital, severed his own penis because he thought it was surplus to requirements since he couldn't find a girlfriend

A Chinese man frustrated at being single cut off his own penis then, in agony, decided to cycle to a hospital for treatment.

 

When he arrived doctors told him they couldn't help save his manhood and ordered him to cycle back home to get the penis before he could be treated.  When Yang Hu, 26, eventually arrived back at the hospital with the severed member, doctors told him that it had been without blood for too long, and it was impossible to reattach it.

 

Yang's friends said that he had been increasingly depressed about the fact that since moving to the city he could not find a girlfriend.

 

What was worse, they said, was that he was doing such long hours in a clothing factory in Jiaxing, in Zhejiang province in east China, that he doubted he would ever have a chance to meet a woman.

 

His depression grew so bad that after returning home after work at 9pm on October 27 to his rented room he had suddenly decided to cut off his member as there was no use for it anyway, and believing it would stop him thinking about getting a girlfriend.

 

Incredibly he managed to cycle to the hospital, then cycled home again to collect the severed member and then back to the hospital.

 

His friends criticised doctors saying that had they provided the man with an ambulance he might have managed to get home quicker and his private parts could have been saved.

Read more here.

Culled from:  www.dailmail.co.uk

6 Vital Signs your Partner 'Is' Cheating on You

Are you having concerns that your partner is cheating on you?  There are tell-tale signs to look for.  If your partner exhibits these signs, there's a high likelihood that they are cheating on you.

 

1. Does your partner keep their phone(s) hidden or protect their phone jealously or password it so you can't access it?  Do they fidget or 'hover around you' if you asked to use their phone for a sec? Your partner might be trying to keep something from you if they keep their phone from your view, put it on silence or even have it switched off when at home; maybe there are texts, numbers, voicemails, or other  incriminating stuff they don’t want you to see.  In some cases, they could even have another phone you know nothing about.

2. Do they consistently work late hours? Are these extra hours reflected in their salary.  Traditionally, working later than usual and on a regular basis is one of the most common signs that cheating "could" be taking place. Normally, working extra hours would mean an increase in take home pay. Ask yourself, is there an increase in their salary as a result of the extra hours of work they consistently put in at work?  Do they ever use the work phone when calling to let you know they will be late?

3.  Does your partner shower you with "out-of-the-blues" gifts or do they seem more caring and affectionate than usual?  Unexpected gifts are more like "guilt offerings".  The guilt makes them to subconciously feel the need to buy you very expensive gifts because it helps them cushion the effects of the guilt the feel for cheating on you; it is something akin to "when you offend the 'gods', 'something' (a sacrifice) is required from you to appease them." Also, a sudden change from a bad habit to a good one might be proof that something isn't quite right.  But it's worthy of note that they could actually be trying to change for the better; the length of time this positive change in their habit lasts would determine whether the change was to appease you or it was actually for them to become a better partner.

4.  Has your partner suddenly become argumentative or touchy?  Are you being regularly blamed for anything that goes wrong, snapped at for no obvious reason or dragged into an argument?  This could either be guilt making your partner blame you for making them have an affair or a very dangerous sign that they are beginning to fall out of love with you because of the other person in their life. 

 

5.   Do they want to look good all of a sudden and go extra length to achieve it?  If your partner becomes more concerned with their personal appearance, it is a sign they could be cheating.  A cheating partner will often desire to look and smell good for the person they are cheating with.  The sudden desire to start working out, buy new clothes and underwears, or wear expensive perfumes to places you aren't asked to come along to, should be questioned.

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6.   Is your partner spending too much money but not for the home?  Do they constantly complain of being impecunious? Then keep your eyes peeled for questionable charges in your financial records.  Cheating habits take money to sustain.  And where you don't have a joint bank account or have access to his financial records, you should question the lack of money seeing it wasn't spent for the home.

 

But before you begin leveling accusations, bear in mind that the presence of these signs is not 100% proof that your partner is cheating.  They are just indicators that your partner 'could' be cheating.  So do not jump to conclusions; instead, take everything into consideration and ask your partner questions where necessary.  If you have feelings they are cheating, first do some careful thinking and also pray for God's direction before you accuse your partner of having an affair.   Assume the best of your partner until you have viable evidence that suggests you do the contrary. Otherwise, don’t create a problem where none exists.

Health Benefits of Tiger Nuts

“Tiger nuts are often cultivated for their edible tubers. In Nigeria, the Hausas call it ‘Aya’; Yorubas call it ‘Ofio’; and the Igbos, ‘imumu’ or ‘aki Hausa’.  The Hausas make a drink called Kunun Aya from it. In China, tiger nut juice was used as a liver tonic and heart stimulant.

The nuts contained a lot of oleic acid which helped to reduce cholesterol and triglyceride and also help prevent the hardening of the arteries. 

Tiger nuts are said to also help prevent constipation because they aid proper digestion. The nuts also contain enough protein and carbohydrates and a good quantity of vitamin B1, which assists in balancing the central nervous system and helps to encourage the body to adapt to stress. They supply the body with enough quantity of Vitamin E, essential for fertility in both men and women.

Tiger nut milk has been used to treat stomach pain, aid normal menstruation, and is believed to help heal mouth and gum ulcers and is a powerful aphrodisiac.

It is also said to promote the production of urine, serve as a preventive measure for prostate cancer, hernia, rectum deformation and prolapse.

Tiger nuts help in stress management by helping the body to stay balanced and also help to prevent fibrosis as well as blockage of the tip of the fallopian tube. The high fibre content of the tiger nuts makes it a good colon evacuator and cleanser and can help one to lose weight.

The black specie of the tiger nuts is believed to be an excellent medicine for breast lumps and cancer.  The nuts are also used in the production of some types of beer, cosmetics, condiments and livestock feed.

 Nursing mothers are often encouraged to eat a lot of tiger nuts for enough production of breast milk to satisfy their babies as it is believed to enhance breast milk production.

A Police Officer's act of Kindness Rescued and Gave a Thief a JOB!

So grateful: Jessica Robles made the desperate decision to steal food for her hungry family. But getting caught has helped her turn over a new leaf.

What makes us human? Is it the struggle of base nature versus elevated reason? Is it a balance between selfish survival and selfless charity towards others?

Read the incredible story of how a penniless Miami mother of four, desperate to feed her hungry family, was nearly arrested while trying to steal US$300 worth of groceries, but the responding officer decided to help her instead!

Officer Vicki Thomas arrived on the scene last month, and when Jessica Robles admitted the food was for her starving family, Thomas sent her home with a misdemeanor citation and US$100 worth of groceries.

 

Thomas, a 23-year old veteran on the force told WSVN, 'I made the decision to buy her some groceries because arresting her wasn't going to solve the problem of her children being hungry.'

 

Thomas then informed Robles of Church food pantries and other places she could get food to feed her children without stealing.

 

She left them with one request:  'The only thing I asked of her is, when she gets back on her feet, that she should help someone else out and she said she would.'

 

Since news of Thomas' act of kindness has spread, goodwill offers of money, food, and even a job (John Challenor of phonedoctor.com invited Robles in to see her resume and hired her as a customer service on the spot!) have poured into the Robles' household.

 

'There's no words,' Robles told Challenor through tears, 'to describe how grateful I am that you took your time and helped somebody out.  Especially somebody like me.'

 

One reader commented: "For me, this is the Kingdom of God in action, even if the officer isn't aware of it, ascribing her actions as an act of human kindness. However, if it wasn't such an uncommon thing, then it wouldn't be news, but it does put the likes of the Kardashians and such to shame.

 

I can't agree more!

Click to read more.

 

Adapted from: www.dailymail.co.uk.

What is Endometriosis?

I decided to do a post on this because of the number of women in this part of the globe who are dying in silence from the devastating effects of this not very well acknowledged disease.  Those affected by it most times don't speak up about it, are not believed by their husbands or are often misdiagnosed.  If your wife complains about severe pain during or after sex or becomes totally afraid of and avoids sex, do not take it personal as she could be suffering from endometriosis.

Endometriosis is a female health disorder that occurs when cells from the lining of the womb (uterus) grow in other areas of the body. This can lead to pain, irregular bleeding, and problems getting pregnant. Endometriosis is a common finding in women with infertility and has a significant social and psychological impact.

 

 Symptoms

Symptoms may depend on the site of active endometriosis. Pain is the main symptom of endometriosis.  Its main but not universal symptom is pelvic pain in various manifestations. Throbbing, gnawing, and dragging pain to the legs are reported more commonly by women with endometriosis. Compared with women with superficial endometriosis, those with deep disease appear to be more likely to report shooting rectal pain and a sense of their insides being pulled down.

The severity of these symptoms may vary from individual to individual. It's important to note also that not all endometriosis sufferers necessarily suffer from infertility.

A woman with endometriosis may have:

• Painful periods
• Pain in the lower abdomen before and during menstruation
• Cramps for a week or two before menstruation and during menstruation; cramps may be steady and range from dull to severe)
• Pain during or following sexual intercourse
• Pain with bowel movements
• Pelvic or low back pain that may occur at any time during the menstrual cycle. 

 Causes and Cure

The cause of endometriosis is unknown. One theory is that the endometrial cells shed when you get your period travel backwards through the fallopian tubes into the pelvis, where they implant and grow. This is called retrograde menstruation. This backward menstrual flow occurs in many women, but researchers think the immune system may be different in women with endometriosis.

Sometimes, endometriosis may run in the family. Although it is typically diagnosed between ages 25 - 35, the condition probably begins about the time that regular menstruation begins. A woman who has a mother or sister with endometriosis is much more likely to develop endometriosis than other women.

There is no cure for endometriosis, but it can be treated in a variety of ways, including pain medication, hormonal treatments, and surgery.

Ex-Miss Nigeria, Nike Oshinowo, Speaks on Her Battle with Endometriosis

The Ex-beauty queen has been suffering from endometrosis, which medical professional describe as a significant factor in unexplained female infertility, chronic pelvic pain and other gynaecological problem. 
 

She says her battle with Endometriosis is an unpleasant one “I have lived with endometriosis since the age of 13. I was sent to boarding school in England when I was seven. I went to prep school. It was during the first few days in secondary school that I began my periods (menstrual). They called the ambulance and I was hospitalized for 10 days because the pain started and wouldn’t stop.

I thought I was going to die. Living with endometriosis is a challenge. When you see your doctor, your doctor just tries to treat the symptoms and assumes the pain revolves around your menstrual cycle. But this is not so. This pain affects every single aspect of your life.”

She noted that on sex “Women with endometriosis do not want to have sex because it’s painful. It is very, very painful. So you do not want to have intercourse.  Because it is painful, you’ll not want to go there. It’s not something you are going to look forward to. I have read books on this. And even when you try to forget the fact that you do not want to, half the time you are bleeding.  Periods last about 5 days, mine, if I’m lucky, lasts 7-10 days and if I’m super, duper lucky, lasts less than seven days; if I have eaten what I should, and exercised constantly, it’s not so bad. Exercise works. If you look at a girl’s menstrual cycle, 26-27 days, remove the 10 days she’s been menstruating and remove the days she doesn’t want sex, when she has pre-menstrual tension.

When every part of you is sore, on those days, you are not going to want sex, and even on the remaining five or so days that you are ‘OK, you are not going to want to have intercourse because it is going to be painful. You just don’t want to. So you cannot have a proper relationship with a man.” Nike said.

Click to read more on Endometriosis.

 

Sources:
- Vanguard

- Wikipedia;

- www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/ency/article/000915.htm

 

‘Kimye’ is Finally a Reality? Kim and Kanye Confirm Engagement!

 

Kim flashes her enormous engagement rock.  Photo Source: Instagram

Kim Kardashian flashes her enormous engagement ring, confirming that she is indeed set to wed Kanye West.

 

The reality TV star held up her large, 15-carat diamond ring for a photo shortly after Kanye popped the question at a baseball stadium in San Francisco last night.

 

The ring was designed by celebrity jeweler Lorraine Schwart, who just so happens to be the same person who designed her recently auctioned engagement ring from her previous marriage to Kris Humphries which went kaput just after 72 days.

 

Source: PA Photos

Humphries sold the rock - which was marginally bigger than Kanye's at 16.21 carats.  The reportedly worth $2million ring, surprisingly, was auctioned at Christies in New York for an eye-watering $620,000, meaning the mystery buyer paid $749,000 after adding the buyer's premium. 

 

Speaking about the sale of the rock to Us Weekly, a source revealed: "Kim has been waiting for the day Kris would auction it… Everyone always asked what Kim did with the ring - she silently gave it back over a year ago! And Kris waited until the divorce was final to sell it… The ring is definitely not worth $2 million, not even half of that."

 

Kardashian and Humphries married in August 2011 before the reality TV star filed for divorce with the former couple only finalising their split in May of this year.

Types of Husbands and Their Character Traits

Like items, husbands fall into various categories.  Take a look at these character traits and see if you can spot your husband.

 

Slave Driver Husband

 

This type of husband is very archaic in nature and such a control freak.  If he has his way, he will want to control how many times you breathe in a day.  His way of thinking and doing things is so old fashion you will be forced to glance at your calendar to make sure it isn't still the 16^th century.  Any attempt to act ‘modern’ with him is seriously rebuffed.  He’s very culturally minded and constantly wants to be treated like a demi-god.  To him, being romantic is for the weak-minded.  His wife is in a perpetual state of servitude to his every whim and is never consulted when major decisions about the home are being taken.  He sees his wife as one of his acquired household decor or property and nothing more.

 

Bachelor Husband

 

The bachelor husband is never serious with married life.  Although he is married, he still thinks and behaves like a bachelor, loves to do things on his own and wouldn’t think it proper to get the wife's opinion.  He loves his ‘space’ and jealousy guards it from any form of intrusion from the wife.  The bachelor husband would rather hang out with the ‘boys’ than with his wife.

 

General Husband

 

He is husband to every other woman except his wife.  He knows a lot about the personal lives of other women more than he does that of the wife.  He tends to show much concern and care to different women and, although not in a relationship with them, would readily offer to solve their financial problems without their asking.  Most of his friends, physically and in the virtual world, are mostly women.  A run through his contact list on his phone or his page on the social media will confirm this.

 

Visitor Husband

 

He’s never home.  He’s either away travelling for months or always working.  Anytime he re-surfaces, he’s always in hurry to leave; his home is more like a lodge than any other thing else.  He tries to provide the material needs of his wife and family but has very little or no time for them.

 

Parasitic Husband

 

This one is a leech; a very lazy one for that matter.  He can’t keep hold of a job for very long.  The parasite husband appears to be very loving but only sticks with the wife for nothing other than her money.  He sees nothing wrong in using his wife’s resources to cheat with other women.  He totally lacks any form of initiative to be useful around the house or help with chores.

 

Elixir-Needing Husband

 

This type of husband sees his wife as some kind of elixir.  He remembers and shows love to the wife only when he needs something only she could give him at the moment.  He’s a user, always receiving but not giving anything in return.  He is very clever and manipulative and knows how to sweet talk his way until he gets what he wants.   He will demand for her attention on the spur of the moment and knows all of her weaknesses.  He naturally would capitalize on them whenever he has a need, and, as soon as this need is satisfied, will forget  about the wife until it is time for another of his needs to be met again.

 

Man-Child Husband

 

The man-child husband is a man physically but still a child mentally. He cannot take a decision without first consulting his mother or any one of his relatives.  He never discusses his family issues with his wife and expects his wife to care for him exactly as his mother did. He never hesitates to draw comparisons between his wife and other women, especially is mother.  What his mother thinks, overrides what his wife says.

 

Acidic Husband

 

This type of husband is as grumpy as they come and runs the affairs of his home with military precision.  He's a volcano ready to explode and you can never catch him smiling or playing at home with his family.  He’s always angry, moody, dominating, screaming and generally tough from all angles.

 

Emotionally Dry Husband

 

He totally lacks a sense of humour and is emotionally distant from the wife.  It will be asking for too much from him to emotionally invest in the marriage to make it enjoyable.  In addition to being self-centred, he lacks empathy and can never try to see things from his wife's point of view.  He is also very stingy with his money and doesn’t consider the happiness of the wife as his responsibility.

 

Good Husband

A good husband will embody many different positive characteristics, including being a good listener and communicator as well as being able to apologize without being prompted.  He cares for and loves his wife to a fault and sees her as a partner.  His family comes first. Always. He is very respectful, compassionate, faithful, responsible and supportive at all times.  He ensures that his family is never in need.  He strives daily to create time for the family and most importantly leads and guides his home spiritually.