How to Make a Long Distance Relationship Work

 

A long distance relationship is hard enough without having to add to it the extra unnecessary hassles individuals sometimes add to the already difficult situation.  These additional pressures sometimes cause normal situations to become overly stressful.  To make a long distance relationship work, here are a few things to consider doing:

 

Stay in Touch:  Not staying in regular touch is the same as ignoring your partner.  Make your partner know and feel that they can talk to you when they want or need to.  Having access to you removes their doubts and fears and enables them function emotionally well and get through a difficult time of being apart from you.  Staying in touch is paramount to the functionality of a long distance relationship and removing it will mean taking away a critical component of the relationship.  It might not seem very important to you but it could be to your partner. 

 

Do not Tempt Your Partner's Trust:  When you are separated by distance, the tendency to begin new relationship increases over time. If you feel it isn't okay for your partner to date others, why would you think it is okay for you to do so?  You might feel you could get away with it, it is almost a guarantee you could, but it just isn't right.  Do not tempt your partner's trust by double dating as there's no guarantee that you wouldn't be found out.  A relationship without trust is a dead relationship.

 

Do not Take Your Long Distance Partner for Granted:  Simply because your partner has proven they love you a whole bunch or are hopelessly interested in you does not mean you should take it for granted that they will always be there.  There's a limit to what you can get away with.  Even the most patient and understanding person could grow weary of being made to feel they are just an option.

 

Do Not be too Needy:  You might appear to be too needy if you always cave in to that burning need to constantly contact your partner.  Control your feelings each time you are tempted to contact your partner within a short period of your last conversation with them.  While you might think doing so will bring you closer, your partner might consider your action a little despearate and suffocating.  When you appear to be too clingy, you invariably drive your partner away.

 

Do Not Accuse them of Doing Something You Can't Prove:  If you do not have substantial proof that your partner is avoiding your calls/messages, is delaying returning your calls, or is dating others and therefore cheating you, then do not make the accusations.  It isn't worth losing someone you love over 'feelings' that something is going on behind your back.

 

There's no doubting the fact that long distance relationships will work perfectly alright if the people involved are strong in faith, love and have respect for each other.