Things to do to Make Others Value You

Do you sometimes wonder why people tend not to value you or what you do for them even when you give them the best of you? Do you wonder why they seem to think you have endless amounts of time to do whatever it is they want you to do for them?  Could it be that there are things you do which are absolutely not wrong but only serve to enforce how others see and treat you?

Possibility is on the high side that you may be lacking that little thing called self-respect. Self-respect is akin to self-love - that little gift we lavish on ourselves that empowers us to be less motivated to ALWAYS want to please others at all cost.  There is nothing wrong with doing things to please others; what is wrong is when the 'others' won't lift a finger in an attempt reciprocate.

Treading the path of self-love is not an easy journey to embark on.  However, the emotional trauma associated with being taken for granted is not something you can permanently live with, either. Therefore, there are a few important things you can start doing to help you in your attempt at self-love.



1.  Stop looking for who does not look for you.

2.  Reduce how you visit some people, especially if the do not visit you in return.

3.  Do not go where you are not invited.  And when invited, do not overstay your welcome.

4.  Do not always be available.  Be scarce sometimes.

5.  Treat people exactly the way they deserve to be treated.

6.  Do not call anyone more than 3 times at intervals; if the value you they will return your call.

7.  Always think you are special too.  Do not lose yourself in the process of placing more value on another more than yourself.

8.  Do not waste effort in making someone a part of you who obviously are not making any efforts on their part to meet you even if it is halfway.

9.  Take care of your own needs first.

10.  Learn to say "No" sometimes. You won't die.

In conclusion, having boundaries for every facet of your life is the best description for self-love.  Knowing when to say "enough" to what doesn't grow you is a huge step towards self-love.