There are many types of men out there in
the dating world. Although a man can be one or more combinations of the
following, there’s the one trait that will always predominate. Which of the
following aptly describes your “Knight in Shining Armour”?
Mr. Player
This guy is also called the honeymooner because of the length of
time things remained fabulous while dating him. The first few weeks or months
of dating were absolute bliss. This guy starts off real aggressive, hot and
heavy. He can't see you often enough, calls all the time and declares his love
for you early on. He's so romantic, thoughtful and attentive that you think
you've hit the love jackpot and won real big time. He woos you with
promises of a happy future together, taking you to great hotspots, cooking you
dinner, and being that great listener who wants to share your hopes and dreams.
At some point, you couldn't believe your luck and think he seems too good to be
true. Well, he is. This guy is a classic neophiliac. He loves the thrill of the
chase, and is enamored with the novelty of you. Once that has worn off and he
has gotten what he wants, he sets his sights on the next pretty girl. How to
protect yourself from this guy? Don't fall for the lines and behavior right
away. Take your time before investing your heart and proceed slowly. Make sure
that he means what he says. And the best way to do that is to let time take the
lead and guide you. Usually these guys don't want to put in the works towards
developing anything long term so you'll know in a short period of time if his
words mean anything. But if you insist he's 'the one', then please follow
your heart.
Mr. Afraid of Commitment
You go on a great couple of dates, you have things going
wonderfully, you feel the chemistry, you click on so many different
levels. Or so you thought. And then you never hear from him
again. He's never able to discuss his feelings or freaks out and distances
himself when you express how your feelings for him have grown. He's truly afraid
of intimacy and what it brings. So, you try not to pressure him and
accept the flow of things because you think maybe if you give him time he'll
come around and choose you. You may be involved with a guy who falls in this
category for months or even years and whenever the subject of a future together
pops up, he asks you what's the rush, says he's not ready, he needs more time,
etc. Whatever his excuse is for not committing, it is tying you to a
relationship that has hit a brick wall. The relationship either moves
forward or it does not. It is his right to stay in limbo but then it is
also your right not to have to wait around for him to commit. You can either
chose to move on or at least date others in the interim until he does figure
out what he wants. He may never figure it out or choose you but at least you
aren't wasting precious dating years on an emotionally stunted and unavailable
guy. Some men just can't commit, are players, have fears of commitment due to
bad past relationships, want to remain bachelors, or like you but not enough to
choose you for a committed, long lasting relationship. If only you could tap
into the mind of his therapist for his reasons for pushing away many good women
who have loved him. But, the real deal is, when a guy is head over heels for a
woman and loves her fully, he does not want to lose her and would rather step
to the plate and commit than risk her walking out of his life. If he's willing
to watch you walk away, you know it's time to kick him to the curb and keep on
stepping. But if you have the time to wait around for him to ‘come
around’, then you may as well do so.
Mr. Handy
He will paint your home, take out the trash, go grocery shopping, do the dishes, and fix your appliances and / or your car, etc., and loves doing it. He is very useful around the house. Mr. Handy will bring you breakfast in bed, and generally do the house chores without you asking him. This guy respects you and is not to be avoided. You may want to put Mr. Handy to work while you've got him.
Mr. Flake
This
one is characterized by constantly flaking out on you at the proverbial
eleventh hour. He habitually stands you up, blows you off or shows up late to
most of your dates. He does not have respect for your time and plans and
doesn’t seem to be bothered by his actions. Bottom line, he does not respect
you and does not care whether or not you are in his life. If you like
your feelings being trampled upon at will, then stick with Mr. Flake.
Mr. Parasite
This guy needs you to pay for everything; your dates with him, shopping at the mall, etc. He’ll not hesitate to take your money if you offered or see anything wrong in asking you for money even if you have to borrow. In a nutshell, Mr. Parasite doesn’t mind being a kept man. This kind of guy will do anything just to please you as long as you will always be at the paying end when cost is involved. If you don’t mind having a ‘kept’ man in your life, or think nothing of his behavior even when he's pushed you into debt, then Mr. Parasite is the guy for you.
Mr. Sports Fanatic
He will always watch the game, no matter what. The glee he exudes
when his favorite game is about starting is beyond human
comprehension. Never you mess with his TV or with him when the game is
on! Sports are the 'other woman' in his life besides you and he could
actually dump you because of ‘her’ if caution isn’t exercised. If you
don’t mind that nearly 100% of his attention will be on ‘her’ whenever ‘she’s’
around, then a relationship with Mr. Sports Fanatic can work.
Mr. Taken
Whether
this guy is involved in another relationship with a girlfriend or wife, he
should be off limits. Yet so many women are lured by the seduction of his words
and think he'll eventually dump the other woman and choose them. They are told
the other woman is a witch, mean, does not understand them, is psycho and won't
leave him alone. Mr. Taken will say to you that his relationship with the wife
or girlfriend has a lot of problems, they fight constantly, he is no longer
sleeping with the girlfriend or wife, he's staying only for financial reasons
or the children. The trump lie: divorce is on the cards or he's planning on
leaving his wife or girlfriend very soon and he wants you to just exercise a
little bit more patience. Now, it’s been months or even years and his promise
never seem to be anywhere near materializing. Women are nurturers by
nature. They want to take care of other people. Many feel that they can
prove that with affection, attention and caring that they are different than
the other person in his life and that is what he really needs. The nurturing
nature in women leads them to swallow his lies, hook, line and sinker. A
relationship based on a deception is not one that can have a real future
because if he can cheat on or lie to someone else to be with you, he can also
do the same thing to you in the future. Don’t deceive yourself into
believing you are special and the exception; if you do, then you are living in
a fantasy world. Don’t hang around nurturing a relationship that never even
existed in the first place. If, as he claimed, he’s truly in an unhappy
relationship or marriage and truly cared about you, he'd end his other
relationship before beginning one with you. The best way to avoid this scenario
will be to tell him to contact you once he's ended his other relationship and
not a day before. And, stick to that. Don't be afraid to tell him that if he
continued to contact you that you will tell his girlfriend or wife about the
two of you. That fear is enough to make most taken guys run for the hills. If
you find out later in the relationship that he isn’t single like he claimed,
end it immediately and don't look back. You’ll be doing what’s called ‘dating
with integrity’. A relationship with Mr. Taken is toxic and will only erode your
self-esteem, self-love, and self-confidence. Do all that’s within your
power to end it otherwise you’ll lose yourself in the process. When you allow
yourself to enter a relationship based on a deception where you are not his
main priority, you are setting yourself up for being used. He's not into you;
he's just into how he can use you to give him what he is not getting at home
from the girlfriend or wife.
Mr. Cheat
This guy will cheat on you, no matter what. You will never at any
time be the only woman in his life. But try not to take his cheating
personally because he cheats on everyone. Cheating comes naturally to him, like breathing. As far as he's concerned, it is a
right. As it is, cheating is synonymous with lying. So whether you
realize it or not, truth is he cheats on and lies to you and the other women
too; ALL the time. So, if you can condone being cheated on and lied
to, here’s the right guy for you.
Mr. Dictator
He runs the show, period. At work, home, and in a
relationship, he dictates the pace of everything. And that includes your right
to even speak. Everything must go his way or be thrown away all the
time. If you like being controlled to an inch of your life, Mr. Dictator
is your pick.
Mr. Bully
This guy is also a dictator only he’s a fiery-tempered one. He
will scream or threaten, and/or go into a fit of rage at the slightest hint of
opposition. You may leave home with him facing 'one' direction
but may return facing 'seven'. He bullies everybody around him. He
has a lot of testosterone, and likes to physically fight. Mr. Bully can fight
with anyone at anytime and anywhere. If you don’t mind entertaining total
strangers to a free show of strength, albeit you could be hurt in the process,
or the shame associated with being publicly berated/belittled, then the bully
fits you.
This one will never leave his mother. Because he loves his
mother too much, he tends to respect women. He could still be living at
home in his thirties. He will agree with everything you say, and do whatever
you want at all times. He is a pleaser, and must always have a woman in
his life probably to mother him. Do all the mothering you can for him, but
never in the process mess with the relationship between him and his mother. If
your optimal desire is to be a mother to your guy alongside your off-springs,
then this one is the right man for you.
It didn’t end here. Stay tuned for Part 2.
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