What to NEVER Say to Your Boyfriend

When you are in a relationship, it is true that you should have the freedom to self-express.  You should be able to say what you really feel at all times to your partner when you are in a loving relationship.  But there are certain things that are a no-no.  No matter how grounded your relationship is, there are certain things you should never say to your man in the name of self-expression. Ladies, nothing kills a relationship faster than saying things you are not supposed to say to your boyfriend.  Have you ever seen your boyfriend’s countenance change from happy to angry or sad in the middle of a conversation?  Then you must have mouthed something unpalatable to his hearing.  What you think is a harmless statement, comment or observation may actually serve the purpose of a death sentence pronouncement to your relationship.

 

Below are some things you should never say to your boyfriend: 

That Your Friend Seems Like an Idiot: Your boyfriend is aware that one of the key steps to take in order to give a relationship some degree of seriousness is introducing you to his friends.  So he has taken the pains to introduce you to his ‘Best Friend’, possibly from childhood days, and the best utterance you could come up with is 'that  friend of yours seems like an idiot' just after meeting him for the first time.  Sister, men like their friends a whole lot and will not take it kindly with anyone that condemns their friends. 

That must be Your Ex:  You are together on a date and his phone rings but he didn’t pick the call.  He probably didn’t because he wants all his attention focused on you.  He wants the date to be just about you and him; and you conclude it is his Ex calling him.  This attitude will succeed in telling him you don't trust him.

What’s that You are Wearing?:  Your boyfriend has painstakingly ‘dressed to kill’ because he’s taking you out on a date and the next thing that comes out from your mouth upon sighting him is ‘darling, what’s that you are wearing?’ If you are not taken by how he’s dressed, there must be a subtler way of letting him know than just blurting it out in such an unkind manner.

That’s a Total Failure Already:  Guys are generally competitive in nature especially when it comes to succeeding at what they do.  They always want to stay ahead of the ‘pack’ be it being the first to own the latest car, own a house, having the best ideas or trying out new business innovations. When he lets you in on his new business plan, be a little patient and not jump to conclusions that it’s a failed venture already.  If there’s anything you don’t agree with, explain that to him in clear and not derogatory terms.

You should have picked the ‘Red’ One:  The guy coughed up some dough and bought you a very expensive gift. As a thank-you, you berated him for not buying a certain color.  In essence you are telling him that he can never please you no matter what he does for you or how hard he tries.

My Ex is this, My Ex is that:  You think it is funny to inundate him with tales about your ex or that it will make him try to outdo your ex in loving you?  Guys don’t find it funny when they are being compared with others.  Constantly talking to him about and praising your ex is not going to make him try harder to show he can love you better.  In fact, it is a sure fire way to kill your relationship as it will make him feel he can never measure up to your ex.  Well, if your ex was all you said he is, then why is he an ex?

No, don’t… I’ll do it myself:  When your guy tries to show off his protective instincts, do not deter him by going all so ‘independent’ on him.  Guys generally like being in control and like feeling they control the course of the relationship.  They also like playing a significant role in your life by reaching out to help once in a while.  So when your guy offers to help you in anyway and you reject it, he feels emasculated.  Also you succeed in making him think you see him as more of a fiend than a friend or that he’s not capable of anything.

 

You have not done that, So I'll not Do this: Because your boyfriend did not meet certain demands, you, in retaliation, will not do certain things.  This will make your relationship a tit for tat activity.  Also, your guy will be made to feel you are with him for what he can do for you only and nothing more.  Guys like to feel they mean much more to you than just someone you use for meeting your demands.

So my dear ladies, try to avoid using the above statements at all cost. For no matter how grounded you feel your relationship is, there’s a limit to what a guy can condone.  And before you know what's happening, your guy is gone leaving you wondering what went wrong.