How to Make a First Date Lead to More Dates

First impressions matter a lot in every field of human endeavour and that includes dating. First dates are very important relationship foundation layers and ultimately help define the course of a relationship.  If you are looking to going on a long term relationship, then it is imperative that you make your first date the best as it usually turns out to be the most memorable of dates.  Here are a few rules on how to make your first date work and lead to more dates in the future.

 

Don't Make a First Date A Movie Date: This is because you can't get to know someone while watching a movie.  Movie dates should at least be for later dates when you are familiar and have known a lot about each other and don't really need to talk much.  Rather choose to go to a restaurant or park and not the movies. 

 

Don’t Bring A Friend to A First Date: First dates are meant for two people. First of all, only the two of you will be in the relationship, therefore, three or more people would be a crowd.  Inviting your friend or family shows that you aren't interested in your date or that you are nervous to be alone with them.  It will just be plain awkward to bring another person as this will no longer make it a date but some kind of mini get-together. 

 

Avoid Engaging in Distracting Activities: Leave your work or home behind when going on a First Date.  It's rude to text while on the date or to be constantly on the phone. Your date deserves your full attention to show that you are engaged into the conversation and generally interested in what they are saying and not for them to think you are ignoring them or there is someone or some other thing going on for you that is far more interesting than the date.

 

Don’t Kiss: This may sound a bit old-fashioned but it is well on track not to kiss on a first date.  Kissing on a first date could spell bad luck or make you appear easy to get with. Plus it’s very tacky because your date is technically a stranger as this is your first time with that person! If the first date goes well, be sure there will be other dates for such closeness.

 

Don’t Lie or Tell Half-Truths: Do not lay the foundation of your relationship on a lie or half-truths.  There's the tendency your date will find out the complete truth someday it may be difficult for them to trust what comes out of your mouth subsequently. 

 

Don't Pretend to Be Who You Are Not:  Be yourself.  Don't claim to be who or what you aren't.  This will mean creating a deceptive image of who you really are which may eventually give birth to problems in the future of your relationship. 

 

Don’t Talk About Exes: Don’t talk about your ex; it only goes to show that you miss them and are clearly not over them. It’ll make your date feel nervous and make them feel like they’re the rebound. Also don’t talk about things you’ve done with your exes it may make your date really uncomfortable.

 

Don’t Get Personal: On a first date no body wants to listen to your problems or “your story”. Leave the "storytelling" for the future. Conversations on a first date should be left simple, flirtatious and not too informal.

 

Separate Bills:  Insist on paying for yourself on the first date, unless the other person says or even insists they’d pay for it. You shouldn’t take it for granted that, since they asked you out, then they should pay for you.