There's no doubting the fact that there are many people in the dating world who are really looking for commitment. Conversely, there's no doubting the fact that there are many others who are only there for the thrill having someone new brings. In your search for a potential partner to go into a committed relationship with, you could come across people known as “serial daters.” These are people who love the dating game but only for the thrill of the chase and the feeling of going on a new date.
Serial daters act like their whole life depends on dating and often date several people at once, or they just go on a couple of dates with you and then quickly move on. This can of course be hurtful if you’re looking for a long-term relationship, so it’s important to be able to spot this kind of behavior.
You know you are dealing with a serial dater if:
They ignore, send non-committal or delayed messages.
If they sometimes seem distant or are delayed in replying your messages, or ignore you especially when you are both online on any chatting platform, it may be because they are talking with other people. It will be obvious if they are noncommittal in their replies that they are not giving their full attention to you, or if they abruptly change the topic of discussion to avoid answering your questions or take a day or two to give a response of any kind.
They confuse you with someone else!
If they are dating many people at once, they avoid addressing you by name or any form of endearment. Also, they are likely to sometimes confuse you with other people they are speaking to. If they ask you how your day at the office was when you actually work from home, for example, this is when a warning bell should sound off. If when you correct them they get defensive, this is a sure sign they are trying to cover up.
They rush and want to rush into 'things'.
If they rush the conversation and don’t really ask you questions about you or your life, it’s clear that they don’t really want to get to know you. Similarly, if they want to meet you straight away, and after meeting they want to get intimate just as fast, they’re not a safe bet. All they’re looking for is the excitement of somebody new and they’re likely to be gone in a second as soon as they’ve had their fun.
Take yourself home pronto if your potential partner exhibits these signs. After all, if you’re looking for love and commitment, a serial dater will just waste your time and potentially really hurt your feelings. So remember, look out for those who don’t rush you, and who seem genuinely interested in you and what you have to say.
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